Saturday, August 4, 2018

I don't handle "stupid" very well


Photo credit: Chris Cheek
We are just a couple of Canadians who moved to eSwatini, Africa to serve God through a bunch of orphaned or abandoned children who have been dumped in pit latrines, left in plastic bags in trees, dumped in the river or even lit on fire by their parents. That’s it. No hidden agenda. 

I see how critical people are of Pastors (our Pastor Andy Stanley sure gets his daily dose from believers and unbelievers alike!), politicians, Royalty, celebrities and then there is the day-to-day bullying in schools and Sunday Schools every – single - day.  It’s exhausting to observe.

I do embrace constructive criticism as that is how I learn, grow and get stretched, but I don’t handle “stupid” criticism well at all.  I find myself having to repent from being condescending, dismissive or critical (the CDC as my family calls it) of those people.

Let me give you a couple of examples:

This week we got an email message from a lady responding to our diaper drive who said, “I can't believe you are using diapers and purchased wipes for those babies! What do villagers use?”  I wanted to respond with the photo above and a message that the “villagers” (even though Swazi’s don’t live in villages) don’t use diapers (known as nappies) or wipes. They use leaves to wipe the babies bare bums as they toilet train them in the bush.  And what do you mean by “those babies”?? 

But I didn’t.

Then there was the Swazi man who sent us a message through the website accusing us of making up statistics about his country, said that we taking advantage of Swazi’s because they are all gullible and that we are getting rich off of the faces of the children.   To him I want to respond and say that I was rich when I lived and worked and employed people at my company in Canada, and I sure didn’t need to move to a country dying of HIV/AIDS and poverty to get richer.  Furthermore, I don’t believe that ANY of the 280+ Swazi people that we employ at very fair market wages are gullible.  Not one.

But I didn’t.

Last week Pastor Andy said, “The best way to avoid criticism is not to do anything.”  I choose to be criticized. And I am trying to respond with grace (or not respond at all).
 
Thank you Julie and Pete Wilkerson and the amazing guys from SCAPES who loaded the container!
For those of you who support us (and why would you be reading this if you don't?), and who think our babies should wear diapers and be cleaned with wipes, I want to say a HUGE THANK YOU from all 195 children and our 77 staff who care for them.  More than 380 people shopped on line and bought 104,000+ diapers, 360,000+ wipes, 17,000 Pull Ups and endless educational supplies and toys, bicycles, sheets and towels.  Yes, our children do ride bikes and they do sleep with sheets and dry off with towels (okay, no more CDC today). I love my Heart for Africa family and am so thankful for your love, grace and support.

Live from Swaziland … feeling a little salty today.

Janine

5 comments:

  1. Praise God! Don't be concerned about what men may think. Obedience to the Father is ALL any of us need to be concerned about. Blessings to you and the entire team who are being the hands and feet of Jesus! Blessings to all who support this assignment from God to love and care for these little ones and point them to Jesus and the hope we all have in Him. My heart is swelling with pride (the good kind) at how God is using you as a conduit of His great love and mercy. Be encouraged. Be blessed. Be strengthened in body, soul, mind and spirit. Love always!

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  2. We have the privilege of asking our Father for wisdom and He freely gives it. Praying for your big family.

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  4. Hi Janine,
    In reference to the lady that talked about the diapers and wipes, I wondered if there was a cheaper way to toilet them. When I raised my daughter we had diaper service which picked them up twice a week and left fresh, clean cotton diapers. Of coarse you also have to have plastic pants to go over these. They provided a container to put them in and all you had to do was rinse out any stool. Maybe this is too labor intensive for your washing staff but I thought I'd mention it. Also soft wash clothes to wash them off. It worked fine for my daughter but of coarse it is much easier and faster to use Pampers or a similar product and does keep the child dryer. I just wanted to mention it as a way to save money but might not be feasible. Thanks, Joan HasBrouck

    PS keep up the wonderful work you are doing.

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