We know that we can’t save every child, that’s a fact. So
when we opened the El Roi Baby home we had to put in some “rules” that would
guide what babies would be allowed to come to us. We decided that we would only accept children under the age
of 12-months who were placed with us through the Social Welfare department of
Swaziland. We decided that we
would not knowingly accept disabled children because we didn’t have any
expertise in that area and it would require a lot of specialized and one-on-one
care, which we did not have funding for.
We also decided that we are a permanent placement home, and not a
“half-way house” or temporary home for children.
We have made a few exceptions to the age rule, and have
accepted children like Gabriel and Rose at 18-months as well as Jared and
Junior at 2-years because of the extreme situation that they were in (and I am
a softy). We also know that 10% of
our children have a long-term disability (discovered as they grew) and two are
blind, and they are our children and will stay with us.
In November 2015, I was called by a Magistrate Judge (the
ones who sign the court orders to place the children in our care) and he
explained that there was an urgent case that he was asking for help with.
I made the 90-minute drive to Court and in front of the
Judge sat a Grandmother with her 21-month old Granddaughter. The child was clearly severely
disabled, unable to move, challenged to swallow, and not very responsive. After a short visit I explained that we
have a policy about accepting disabled children, any why we have that
policy. The Grandmother burst in
to tears and sobbed in front of us while she rocked the sweet little girl.
The Judge explained the complicated family situation, but
the bottom line was that the husband of the Grandmother didn’t want the
disabled child and was going to kill her and the child if she went home. What was she to do? What were we to do?
Khosie and I stepped out of the Judge’s Chambers and talked
about it. Khosie reminded me that we could not properly care for the child, but
we agreed that maybe we could help for a short time. Sometimes you just have to break the rules. We agreed to
take the child for 90-days while the family “cooled down” and worked on a plan
for her care. Social Welfare was
involved and yesterday we were called to say that the little girl could be
returned to her family.
It was a bittersweet day for those who have loved and cared
for her. The good news is that she is stronger, healthier and more stable than
she was when she came to us. We
sent her with clothes, diapers and toys that would help the family care for
her. I am thankful for our amazing
team of Aunties who love unconditionally, just the way Jesus does.
In other news, baby Shirley’s surgery went very well this
week. Sadly, they did have to
amputate her index finger, but that was the best decision. The reconstruction on her face lead the
doctors to putting two VERY heavy casts on her arms so that she can’t touch her
face. Chris Cheek is, as I have
said before, an angel and we pray for strength for her and joy and perfect
healing for Shirley.
Monday we are launching a new campaign called
#hopewins. Please be sure to
follow Heart for Africa on Facebook and/or Twitter as we will be posting a
short story of HOPE every day for the month of February. Each story has been
written by a Heart for Africa volunteer or staff member about the HOPE that
they see in the eyes and stories of our children.
Our focus for February, the month of love, is to increase
our monthly donors who support the baby home. We have 17 children who are not funded, and there are three
other children who MAY come to us next week. We have to increase our monthly
support in order to be able to say “yes” to the next children. Can you help us today?
In the US: Click here
In Canada: Click here
Live from the Wilkerson’s kitchen table in Alpharetta,
Georgia … #hopewins.
Janine