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| My mom's Christmas tree. |
My mom was a lot of things including (but not limited to);
brilliant Pharmacist, passionate researcher, loving mother and wife, devoted
Christian, exquisite dessert chef and collector of all things. She simply did
not have the ability to throw anything out. I mean nothing.
Two extremes that I can now share publicly (now that she has
passed away) would be finding a drawer full of used wax – the kind that
was poured on the top of freshly made jelly to seal it (and then thrown out
when the jelly was opened, but not mom’s). And then there was the zip lock bag in the freezer
that contained yarn that she planned to use to knit a sweater. The problem that I had with that was
that the yarn was made from a collection of fur that she had painstakingly
collected over the years … from my childhood CAT, Smokey.
Not kidding.
I had countless conversations with my parents about cleaning
out their basement full of three generations of pharmacy
bottles/jars/chemicals/pills/stained glass windows/clocks/piano(s)/ and other
stuff from generations of relatives who had died before them. My words fell on deaf ears (literally
and figuratively), mostly because my mom was convinced that she would be
“raptured” and so all of her “stuff” would be left to “non-believers” who would
be “left behind”.
Oh mom.
My dad passed away in 2005. A few years later my mom was moved to a nursing home, and I was left to deal with the
“stuff”. I was angry that they had
left the mess for me. I felt that
I was trespassing by going in to their home and throwing out dumpster(s) full
of garbage, giving away their things and keeping the odd item for myself. But with a lot of help from friends and
family, I made it through.
After the big clean out in 2010 we shipped a 20ft container
of things from mom and dad’s house to Project Canaan. As we unpacked it and distributed mom’s treasures all over
the farm I found myself repenting for my anger (over and over again). The Lord knew exactly what those things
were going to be used for and He kept them safely in my parent’s home.
Last weekend the Christmas tree was put up at the Oasis and
our children hung their ornaments on that tree. That was my parents’ Christmas tree.
When a child has a birthday and we have visitors join us for
cake, the plates that the cake is served on are my mom’s plates.
The stained glass window that hangs in the pharmacy at the
El Rofi medical clinic was in the front window of my Great Grandfather’s
pharmacy at the turn of the century in Uxbridge, Ontario (also found stored in
my parent’s basement).
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| Stained glass window from my Great Grandpa's pharmacy circa 1,800's. |
I am not saying this in any way to be boastful, but rather
to share my thoughts on how God works, and to show that I believe that
everything that we have, comes from Him. It’s all HIS STUFF, and He will use it
as He wishes!
Yesterday another container arrived from Canada and while it
was mostly filled with diapers, wipes and toys, it also had the last of my
mothers treasures. Among them was a beautiful piece of hand carved marble that
my parents bought in India, many years ago. It is inlaid with semi-precious stones, each carved by hand
by the very same artisan families who hand-carved the Taj Mahal.
My parents had it shipped back from India in the 70’s and
then had a table base made for it.
It was one of the few pieces of her own furniture that was in her
nursing home room. It truly was a
treasure (and not to be out of her sight!). Now it is here in Swaziland, Africa, and I am so thankful
for it.
Another one of her prize possessions also made the
trip. Mom’s baby grand piano arrived
in the container and will be used for piano lessons for our children (just as
it was for me), Christmas concerts and lots of other special occasions.
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| Mom's piano - being moved by our JCB (she may roll over in her grave for this one). |
As Christmas approaches and I prepare for Spencer and Chloe
to come home, I am reminded every where I look at the influence my own parents
had on my life, both in life and in their death. Their work ethic, their faith, their commitment to family
and their commitment to their community has forever impacted my life, the lives
of our children and now, the tiny Kingdom of Swaziland.
Christmas is a time when family gathers together, and even with
all of my parents “stuff” that now surrounds me, none of it replaces having
them here in person.
Live from Swaziland … having a “moment”.
Janine
